Hello dear readers!
Sometimes, with everything we are going through, we just need a good laugh. A fellow chiarian sent this to me, and I had to share with you all. I hope it gives you a chuckle!
By Wendy Waeghe
First I’d like to say I’m so very glad I had the surgery, I’m 90% better! I have no regrets except cutting off all of my long hair……..myself, “pause for the gasp.” I looked like Mr. Cleans ugly step sister, so just let the doctor/hospital do that for ya. Know that there are many of us who have been in your shoes and will try to answer any questions you may have. Your doctor is still the best place for medical advice. This is just a bit of info to maybe help and hopefully get you to smile.
Here’s what you can expect … from the experience that you are or may go through after brain surgery…
It takes a long time to recover. I know that probably sounds obvious, but this point took a long time to sink in. I got really impatient with myself. I kept wondering, after just a week, when I’d start to feel like myself again. At two weeks, I started to panic. In the end, it took months – months! – before I felt normal. It’s been more than a year now, and guess what? Things still aren’t exactly where they should be. And that’s okay. Healing takes time. Be patient with yourself.
You will be stoned out of your gourd. I was loopy from the medicine, and slept for days. DAYS. I could barely stay conscious for more than a few hours, but I kept fighting it, which was dumb. Just sleep it off. You’ve earned your rest.
You will have the attention span of a goldfish (because of the aforementioned medicine). TV shows will be really difficult to follow, and reading books or email will be absolutely impossible. Even the plots of movies you’ve already seen will be absurdly confusing. Have you tried watching Adventure Time? The episodes are only 11 minutes long, and they don’t really make sense anyway, so you might want to check them out.
It might hurt. A lot. This should probably fall right into the “obvious” pile, but I did not anticipate this. The thing is, getting your head drilled actually causes pain. People will tell you that the brain doesn’t have any nerve endings, but your scalp and your skin do. There’s also brain swelling and extra fluid that causes headaches, and I’m not talking the kind that you get while at work or running errands and take a couple Motrin for either! You will feel like there’s a war going on inside your skull and your brain is losing the battle. You may even throw up. GOOD TIMES. Now is not the time to wait it out or to be tough. You could end up with a headache that lasts for, I kid you not, days. TAKE YOUR DAMNED PAIN KILLERS! You can be strong at a more appropriate time, like at the grocery store or your child’s birthday party. (DID YOU SMILE?)
Nerves take a long time to regrow. When your surgeon cut into your skull, they also cut into a lot of tissue and nerve. Over the next few months, as these grow and heal, they’re going to be crazy sensitive. Every time I shivered, it felt like it reverberated straight across my skull and down into my brain. I’ve found that the best way to calm things down was to gently press a hand onto my head. Just a bit of pressure helped soothe my nerve endings. Also, consider wearing hats to ward away chills. Those can be a @&$ch.
Your senses might reset. I was told about this, and it still amazes me. Sometimes whenever the brain is touched or traumatized, your senses are affected. In my case, I noticed that my already strong sense of smell (This nose ain’t for show, buddy!) was now basically super-human. I could smell things that hadn’t happened yet. I also became acutely aware of the sound of my own voice, which sounded strange and foreign to me. Sometimes it still does. Things normalize after a few months, and I’ve got to admit, this is one of the cooler after-effects of brain surgery.
You’re not going to poop for like, a week. The lower intestine is the last thing to wake up after major surgery. So take all those stool softeners the docs are giving you, okay?
Steroids can you turn into a hormonal, rage-filled beast. The good news? They stop your brain from swelling so you don’t die. The bad news? They transform you into the Tasmanian devil . But, with acne and a huge desire to eat everything in your fridge, here’s a tip: try eating lots of lean protein and veggies, and accept that you might gain some weight anyway. Be responsible, but don’t try to limit your caloric intake or diet. You need to eat to properly heal. It’s not permanent. You’re feeling weird because of the medicine, not because you’ve become Phineas Gage or something… Shesh.
Scar tissue is a @&$ch. Check with your doctor on this one, but after you’ve healed completely, consider massaging the site of your incision to help break up the scar tissue that forms around it (I think that you, like me, will have a hole in your skull as opposed to a metal plate. So, please, be gentle). A little bit of scar tissue protects your skull, but if you have a lot you might feel an uncomfortable pulling across your scalp. Do be careful. Even now, a year later, I get headaches if I massage my suture spot too much.
Your head is going to look like a medieval dungeon. There’s the matted blood in your hair, the weird jelly they put on your head, and the metal staples or stitches holding it all together and … ugh. Oh, and you’ll have weird scabs on your scalp, as well as some bruising. As gnarly as all that sounds, it is, apparently, normal. Obviously, this goes without saying, but you shouldn’t pick at anything.
You are going to wake up crazy thirsty from the anesthesia, and no one is going to give you water. They are concerned you are going to throw it up. So instead, you get to munch on ice chips in an attempt to quench your crazy thirst. Even then you will probably throw up anyway. Your throat is gonna hurt like hell from the breathing tube. Let me repeat. Good times.
Do you speak more than one language? You might get confused as to which language you are speaking, and to whom. I did that. I am pretty sure it was a form of alien from another planet that has yet to discovered. I was fresh from surgery and my body felt like it was the consistency of green jello. (Why green you ask? I don’t know. Just looks gross to me) I was able to get the nice lady’s attention somehow and explained there was a spider crawling on the back of my neck! That nice lady? My nurse. “Hun, I can’t understand you.” Great they don’t speak alien here and I’m doomed. Of course it was not a spider. It was a spinal fluid leak which she found and then there were a whole lot of folks coming in to kill the aforementioned spider (I’M SAVED!)
Get someone to do your laundry. It’s amazing how quickly you will go through every single pair of pjs you have when you are wearing them non-stop. Ditto for pillowcases, which you will need to change nightly, and towels. You will basically amass a military barracks’ worth of soiled clothing and linens, but you will be too out of it to remember how to work your washing machine. It will look like a space ship with flashing lights and weird noises. Ask someone for help. Especially if it’s down a flight of stairs. My stairs reminded me of the Never ending stairs picture. My thought at that moment? “I want my mommy.”
For that matter, get someone to take care of you. Swallow your pride, and rely on other people. You will be in a daze. Making yourself food, getting dressed, washing your hair, are all going to be impossible without help. I was 44 when I had brain surgery. I can’t remember ever needing my mother more. My husband was there helping of course, but I just wanted my mom.
People in your life are going to react to this in different ways. The crazy thing is, you won’t be able to predict who’s going to do what. Some of them are going to be amazing. They will come to the hospital and visit you and send you chocolate and call you to see how you are doing. They will stop by your house with food and presents and if they are grossed out by your head, they won’t show it. Some folks … well, some of them will drop off the face of the planet. They’ will say or do weird and insensitive things. They will dismiss what you’ve been through. It will hurt your feelings, be infuriating, and might just confuse the hell out of you. Whatever the case, try to go easy on them, okay? Some people are just bad in a crisis. Besides, you’ve got bigger things to worry about.
Friends are going to look to you for cues on how to act. If you don’t want to talk about it, they won’t ask. If you are really open, they’ll be receptive to what you have to say. Decide how you want to deal with this thing, and you’ll find that everyone else will likely fall into step.
The entire experience will be weird and surreal. My surgery was more than a year ago, and I still haven’t completely wrapped my head (heh) around what happened. Things seem to fall into two categories: “before my brain surgery” and “after.” That’s just how it is. It’s a weird thing.
For a very brief window of time, everything in your life is going to make sense. The petty things that bug you will fall away, and you’ll just be really grateful to be alive. Enjoy that feeling for as long as you can.
I hope you are feeling better soon. And welcome to the club.
Thank you so much Wendy for sharing your hilarious take on what we have to go through. Sometimes, you just need to laugh!
Hello dear readers.
I have been away from both blogs for a little bit lately. My pain has been horrible, uncontrollable, and making me wish it was all just over. Its hard not to have those thoughts when you live with the pain I and others do. I’m still not feeling well enough to write, so my husband and care taker wrote a post for me from a caretaker and spouse’s point of view. Please welcome Jason Thompson.
When my beautiful wife was first diagnosed with Chiari in 2013, it changed our lives forever in ways we never could have imagined. It has created new obstacles, unforeseen challenges and persistent frustrations. However, despite all of those hurdles, it has also given me a deeper appreciation for what matters most in life, and an even deeper appreciation for the incredible woman I married almost nine years ago.
The transition hasn’t been easy for either of us. It’s not just a few minor changes; it’s a whole new way of life. Being married to someone who suffers from a chronic condition like Chiari and EDS means taking on new responsibilities, but it also means finding new and meaningful ways to support your partner. For too long, I thought that just meant getting up early and doing the dishes or folding the laundry (and yes, taking on a larger share of the household responsibilities is certainly part of the equation). What I’ve come to realize is that supporting a partner emotionally is far more important than chore you might complete around the house.
Loving someone who lives with chronic pain is a constant struggle because the pain can twist their mood and outlook in awful ways. But that same sweet person still stands in front of you, crying out for understanding, acceptance and love. Pain takes away so much; loving someone who is in constant pain means finding new ways to give our loved ones a life worth living.
If someone you love has been diagnosed with Chiari, EDS or another condition that causes chronic and debilitating pain, here are several pieces of advice I’ve found to be invaluable.
Support, Don’t Demand
One of the areas where my wife and I have struggled most stemmed from my habit of dictating what she should and shouldn’t do based on her pain. It’s OK to have a conversation from time to time to voice your concerns if you suspect your loved one may be doing something that is counterproductive or even a little bit dangerous. However, this doesn’t mean you should treat them like a child. Allow them listen to their bodies and do what they are capable of doing. Be willing to discuss their capabilities and limitations, and offer suggestions of ways you can support them rather than making them feel like an invalid. Having an honest discussion about these sorts of things is paramount. But lecturing your loved one and treating them like a toddler will only breed resentment.
This one seems like it should be obvious, but I can’t tell you how many times I’ve caught myself trying to “fix” my wife’s problems as quickly as possible when she says she’s hurting. Sometimes, my first inclination isn’t to listen; my priority is always to do whatever I can to make her feel better ASAP. In many ways, I think that’s a natural male instinct to adopt the role of a protector, and many parents doubtlessly feel the same instinct with their children. But oftentimes, your partner or loved one doesn’t need protection or a solution. They just need someone to listen and understand what they are going through, and to be able to connect with another human being. Pain is isolating, so when someone in pain reaches out to you, the best thing you can do is reach back. Not with a bottle of pills or a list of activities they should or shouldn’t do, but with an open hand and a sympathetic ear.
As I alluded to earlier, pain can often bring out the worst in people. But it is important to realize that the anger and depression associated with chronic pain won’t last forever. Someone in the throes of pain might withdraw or lash out when they are feeling their worst. Understand that if you respond to that negativity with more negativity, you only have yourself to blame. Instead of responding to a terse or angry comment with frustration or angry, focus on the reasons why they might be reacting in a negative way. If you know they are in pain, suggest ways to help. If that fails, give them reassurance that you care about them, and be willing to give them some space if necessary.
Most of us don’t fully comprehend what it’s like to go to sleep at night wondering if we’ll wake up tomorrow in too much pain to even get out of bed. I’ve heard too many stories of people who have Chiari whose partners jumped ship because they couldn’t handle the situation. I often wonder how many good relationships have gone down the tubes due to an unwillingness or inability to adapt to a partner’s disability, and more importantly, how many goodhearted people have been cast aside due to simple misunderstanding or just plain selfishness. In the end, leaving behind a good wife, husband or loved one due solely to their medical issues will never enrich your quality of life.
Patients who have chronic conditions don’t have a choice. They have to live with pain and physical limitations every day. But everyone around them has the ability to make a choice. We can decide whether to reach out a helping hand, offer a shoulder to cry on, or even just provide a sympathetic ear. Believe me when I say that every time we’re willing to make that kind of choice and give a little piece of ourselves, that love is appreciated more than we could ever possibly fathom and returned tenfold. And perhaps just as important, it shows us the love we have within ourselves.
When we are in pain, we don’t always take into account how those around us are feeling, nor can they truly understand what we are going through. I hope this post will be able to help some of you talk to your loved ones, and help them understand what we are going through.
Stay positive my dears!
I have been having a really rough time getting my Chiari and EDS symptoms under control, so I thought I would share with you some things that have helped other Chiarians when they are having problems. They may help, they may not, but it never hurts to try. Please do not try any activities that you have not first cleared with your doctor!
1. Wear highly cushioned, support shoes to reduce neck, cerebellum pounding. Commercial cross-trainer sneakers are recommended – New Balance, Nike, Reebok etc.- test before buying.
2. Avoid neck-stressing activities (football, soccer, basketball, wave pools, diving, tennis, roller coasters, other amusement park rides of high G forces, lifting in excess of 15 lb, backpacking, falling asleep in chairs, extended reading with head bent etc.)
3. Get plenty of rest and sleep (eight hr minimum). Pillows and sleep position are very important. Soft, small pillows with fiberfill are very good for this i.e. little or no “push” back. (see expanded list below for other comments about pillows). Most Chiarians are side-sensitive. Use a large pillow(s) etc. to prevent rollover onto affected side. Elevate your bed at the head 4-6 inches by inserting old telephone books, bricks, boards or blocks under the front frame legs. Have a strong relative or friend assist you. If possible, do the same when staying at a hotel/motel or at the home of relatives.” Stop eating and drinking three to four hours before bedtime to reduce the need to get up at night.
4. Avoid caffeine, alcohol, aspirin and/or high salt diet if tinnitus is a major symptom or any of these dietary items increase other symptoms.
5. Stay in excellent physical condition via walking, exercise bikes and other non-neck stressing activities – STAY LEAN
6. Sit in soft recliners with high backs and foot rests.
7. Support reading material with elbows on your knees/thighs or chair arms. Read “straight” ahead. Use book holders or music stands. Look at computer monitors straight ahead.
8. Drive if you have to but use wide vision mirrors and get seats with high backs. -Take your time and limit your driving to short distances at slow speed preferably during the day. Some Chiarians find orthopedic collars help reduce neck stress when riding in a car etc. Some do not.
9. Relax and avoid stress and noise. Don’t tighten the neck muscles. Stay “cool”.
10. Put soft cold compresses on the neck/ brain joint area or on the top of your head for about an hour while lying down (these are soft compresses). Some Chiarians prefer warm compresses.
11. Straining during bowel movements should be avoided. Eat plenty of roughage and eat at regular times. Drinking herbal tea containing senna may help give pain-free relief from constipation.
12. Heavy jewelry, scarves, ties, tight collars, bras, rings, bracelets and watches might feel uncomfortable. Adopt a casual life style and don’t wear them.
13. Try to avoid waiting in lines where stutter stepping is involved. Uneven surfaces or checkered designs in floors maybe difficult to walk on. Focusing on an object in front of your or closing one eye may help when dizziness hits.
14. Do crossword puzzles to assist short- term memory retention. Ditto for playing cards.
15. Take calcium supplements to assist in bone enhancement especially after surgery. Be very cautious using vitamins and supplements- most have not been thoroughly tested for primary and side effects. As always, check with your doctor first.
16. TENS machines may help Chiari and syringomyelia patients. Especially those with spasticity (cervical, thoracic, lumbar muscles) and spinal pain. TENS units also can help with headaches. You can buy one for use at home, but some insurances with cover the cost. As always, check with your doctor first.
17. Avoid cervical traction.
18. Lumbar punctures, spinal taps or epidurals can be dangerous for Chiarians. Always ask your doctor and insist they review the literature on these procedures with respect to increasing herniation. A Chiari Sister recently died from a lumbar puncture.
19. Brushing teeth or gargling can result in sneezing. Minimize head motion during brushing and not bending the neck when gargling.
20. Avoid chiropractor adjustment. Most chiropractors have no experience in treating Chiarians. One member’s herniation significantly increased after cervical adjustment. “That is because I herniated from 3-4 mm to 15-20 mm in 8 months with this treatment (documented on MRIs)”.
21. Review daily movements to include cooking and cleaning. Eliminate as much neck stress as possible. See the items on the expanded list below for some helpful hints.
22. Use the special tray that most beauty shops have for washing hair for people who cannot lean back on blunt sink rims. Chiarians should never lean back on the edges of sinks.
23. Increase foot/ankle support by wearing Nike, Reebok or New Balance Air cross-trainers or similar highly cushioned/ supported shoes (i.e. cushion the cerebellum). Running or walking shoes typically do not have the proper support. The cross-trainers are sold in most sneaker stores. Since each brand is a little different, it is recommended that you test the different models before purchasing. Use gel pads as inserts in your shoes , put them in before you choose the shoes since they take up more room . Berkinstock makes a similar insert pad that’s good too. These help when fashion dictates something other than athletic shoes.
24. Avoid neck “jerking”/stressing activities such as football, basketball, tennis, weight/furniture lifting, wave pools, roller coasters, backpacking, extended reading or sleeping with the head bent down or up, etc.
From Andrea Traugott:
Using a computer is probably one of the worst Chiari symptom exacerbators there is. Sitting, staring and using the keyboard can mess up even the healthiest body let alone ours. Have the screen (or monitor) at eye level and if at all possible, get an ergonomic chair for the back. Remember to sit in the new chair correctly (butt to the back of the chair, not on the edge, feet flat (no leg crossing) and keep your back as straight as you can in the back of the chair.) You can also get an ergonomic keyboard to help the strain on your hands, wrists, arms and cervical area of the neck. The keyboard is slanted/sloped and you’ll need to get used to using it. My hubby bought me one for my birthday and I love it! Also remember to BLINK!! It lubricates the eyes and prevents dry eye.
From Jim Foutty:
When you think of Chiari malformations, picture in your mind an orange with a cord through its middle sitting on top of a soda bottle. If you get hold of the cord and pull downward, this is in a simple way, what is happening to our brain. It is trying to make its way down through a very small opening so what we must do is to stop and reason carefully what we do and the affect it will have. Lifting heavy objects, squatting down, bending a lot, working overhead and using our upper body are some of the things that will cause a downward pull or a swelling of muscles in the neck and therefore cause increase in symptoms. Be careful of anything that puts you in jeopardy of falling and creating trauma of any type.
Get plenty of rest and sleep- use a small soft pillow, fiber better than foam, and extra side pillows/rolled towels to prevent rolling to a neck-pinch position,- sleep with your head higher than your feet,- a head down position can cause significant pressure on the neck. Dr. Milhorat recommends sleeping on a bed that is elevated to some degree at the head board. Some Chiarians use a water-base pillow Mediflow Pillow. Other types use a sobakowa pillow, or a feather pillow. When staying at a motel/hotel/guest quarters, roll up two or three large towels and insert them between the mattress and the box springs near the head board. Sneakers will also work. Don’t forget to remove the “risers” before you leave.
Eight plus hours of sleep are recommended by most Chiarians. If possible get a nap during the day. It helps to refresh and get through the rest of it. Stop eating and drinking three to four hours before bedtime to reduce the need to get up during the night.
From Sue Marsigli:
Not finding a pillow that is comfortable enough post operatively is an issue many of us face. Before anyone has surgery the issue is much easier to face as you are only dealing with finding the position in which you can put your head and neck that will not increase any of the symptoms.
After surgery you are still dealing with this issue, but in addition, you are dealing with scar tissue, sore incision sites, bone pain or pain from the hardware. Also, if you have to wear some type of brace to sleep in.
Sleep is usually interrupted for many of us and yet this is probably the only time that we are able to unload our spine for any length of time and this is needed to aid in the healing process. I wish there were a magic answer of a pillow or bed that would work for everyone. What is important is to try various amounts of different things and constantly reevaluate what you are doing. Is my head and neck in a neutral position-how long does it stay there before I have to move, what position causes increase in pain, how long at a stretch am I really sleeping? The list of questions goes on and on.
Get your spouse or even a child to look at you when you are sleeping and the next day (don’t need to wake you up after you finally got to sleep) let you know what position you were in. You may need to brace yourself with some pillows or towel rolls. I do know that with scar tissue a hard surface is probably not going to be your best bet but then also you don’t want to go with something too soft. I think that when you get some type of material that has some play with it you have a better chance in succeeding to achieve the correct amount of support.
I also think that we tend to forget about using some terry cloth towels rolled to the correct height to wear around your neck to sleep with. The material is soft enough to not irritated the scar tissue and yet strong enough to give the neck alignment that you need.
Sleep patterns take 6 weeks to change so don’t expect to change things overnight. If you are able to comfortably sleep for two hours then I bet you are on the right track and that with time your pattern will increase. You will constantly need to change things as you heal and some things get stronger-muscles and scar tissue so be ready to make adaptations.
I bought a pillow from Brookstones and have found that is the only pillow that I can use to sleep with. It is called Tempur-pedic and it is a little bit pricey. Standard size $99 ($130 queen size), but it is amazing and I highly recommend it. I know that when I bought it I thought, “Here goes another one that will not work.” The salesman told me to keep the plastic on it and if it did not work to return it for a full refund. They couldn’t buy it back from me now. It works on the theory of the heat of your own body allows it to conform to your head and neck. I think that this is great, especially if you have had surgery. When you have had surgery there is scar tissue that has formed and when you use an orthopedic pillow that is supposed to put you in so called normal alignment, the scar tissue is stretched and therefore it is uncomfortable. This pillow molds to you and gives you support instead. Hope this helps. I know that my breathing and swallowing and hear difficulties are better with this.
Instructions for a Postoperative Pillow (from Patrick’s Mom)
Purchase an inexpensive feather pillow (king-size is best). Remove any protective zip-on liners that may have come with it. Equally “divide” pillow in half by pushing all the down out to the sides. Pin the center of the flat pillow ticking with straight pins from the edge to about half-way through to prevent the down from moving back into the center Either by hand, or by machine, baste-stitch in the center from the edge of the pillow up almost to the middle, across 3/4″ and back down the other side returning to the edge of the pillow. Return pillow to any liner and give it to your favorite Chiari patient!
This pillow keeps direct pressure away from the surgical incision when the patient is lying on his/her back, yet allows them to turn from side to side without needing to re position the pillow. A king-size pillow works best because it provides cushioning across the entire length of a hospital bed and allows extra room for turning from side-to-side. If you take this pillow with you to the hospital, be sure to put a vinyl liner around it to protect it from post-surgery nausea!
From Suzanne Chisum:
Dr. Milhorat told me something interesting. He called it Meniere’s Syndrome. It is when a person with Chiari has a build up of fluid pushing on the semi-circular canals in the inner ear and it produces Meniere’s like symptoms.
(Meniere’s disease is a disorder of the inner ear that causes spontaneous episodes of vertigo — a sensation of a spinning motion — along with fluctuating hearing loss, ringing in the ear (tinnitus), and sometimes a feeling of fullness or pressure in your ear. In many cases, Meniere’s disease affects only one ear. People in their 40s and 50s are more likely than people in other age groups to develop Meniere’s disease, but it can occur in anyone, even children. Although Meniere’s disease is considered a chronic condition, various treatment strategies can help relieve symptoms and minimize the disease’s long-term impact on your life.)
He told me that he operated on 70 people with these symptoms, having them go through a thorough exam by an ENT and then he has them go through it again after the operation and has seen great improvement
Wearing a soft cervical collar when in a car is found to be helpful by many Chiarians before and after surgery. I also use a cloth sleeve filled with the plant potting granules that hold water and sew it to fit my neck. Soak in water for a few hours and it holds the water turning into a firm gel. This then evaporates in the heat over several hours keeping you cool. It makes a huge difference when its 90 or 100 degrees outside. I like using old silk ties from the thrift shop for these. They come in great fabrics and colors for pennies.
From Donna Corman:
Last fall at a craft sale I bought this thing that could be put in the freezer or in the microwave. It works great. And is so simple to make. It’s just flannel material sewed in a square and filled with rice. Make them any size you want. The one I have is about 8″ x 8″ and is filled with three lbs of rice. They just look like those bean bags we use to play with as kids. Be careful the first time you put them in the microwave. Each oven is different. Please start out on the lowest setting first. These things work wonderful and just the light pressure feels good when I must use them on my head. I used the frozen vegetable bags the other night because I needed so many for my legs.
We found ACE manufactures an ice pack that is reusable and soft (conforms to the body). It’s order number is 207516. Hope this helps someone.
A healthy vegetarian diet really helps with the constipation. It is much higher in fiber and beans/lentils ferment and breakdown faster then meat. When I start having increased constipation which is often I decrease meat and increase beans with much success. There is the “gas” problem, but if fiber is added gradually and beans/lentils are used as the source of protein daily the body adjusts and the gas problem resolves. This also can often alleviate the need for bowel medications which can interfere with nutrient absorption. For anyone with a history of coronary problems a well balanced vegetarian diet can also be very beneficial. Adequate water intake is also very important, I stress water not soda or coffee. I am a registered dietitian who has treated many people with constipation and have post surgery symptoms from Chiari.I know how bad straining for any purpose is to our well being.
I also found two other things that help. I use a rocking chair in the mornings while at my desk. I don’t have the faintest clue why, but the motion of the chair helps some. Set a timer to go off about every half hour and do five minutes of stretching . If I sit too long, I get stiff and achy.
This list can be given to anyone, anytime, anywhere. It is a compilation of suggestions made by WACMA members over the past five years.
I hope some of you were able to find this helpful.
Stay Positive Dear Readers!!
This is from my friend and Chiari confidant Aimee Zemanek 🙂 I am re posting this with her permission.
It has a lot of great info and is another perspective on Chiari.
Aimee’s To-Do List/Recommendations for Chiari Decompression Surgery
Remember that it takes a full month for every 15 minutes that you are under anesthesia before your body fully recovers. You might feel great a few weeks after surgery but DON’T over do it. You will get tired very easy. Listen to your body.
I had my stylist shave my hair for me before surgery. Ear to Ear from the Occipital Ridge down. Don’t worry about your hair… it grows back! Mine was completely back in about 8 months. I occasionally get sad that no one can even see my scar any more because my hair all grew back.
*ASAP* Look into and see if you can get this pillow ordered and delivered in time. I got mine from Med Pillow. I still sleep on mine every night. If you are a back sleeper it will help to keep your staples away from the pillow. If you are a side sleeper, then that hole supports your neck muscles while your shoulder fits perfect in the middle.
Print out the form for a temporary handicapped parking permit and have your surgeon sign it BEFORE your surgery. That way you will have it already when you get out of the hospital. Here in Texas they gave me one for 6 months. This will prevent you from having to walk so far during recovery. You get these at the same place you pay for your car registration and get new license plates.
Plan a dinner party or something for the night before. Don’t sit at home and think about what is going on the next morning. Go have fun with friends and get some good food.
Get gift cards for area restaurants so you can send visitors to go pick up food for you since hospital food sucks. I also had gift cards for the area bubble tea, frozen yogurt and gelato places (is there a pattern here?)
Have someone with you at all times, 24/7, around the clock. No exceptions, while you are in the hospital. I would say this should be the first couple of days at home too.
Most important! Listen to your body! We are not all one-size-fits-nobody. We know our bodies better than they do! (They kept saying I had to stay on a “clear liquid diet” in right after surgery ICU but that overly sweet apple juice, jello and sherbet just made the nausea worse. I sent my dad out for milk. The nurses were furious but I never got sick again and was eating a Wendy’s hamburger the next day for lunch.) My body was used to drinking a lot of milk (like 3 gallons a week) because I had been taking anywhere from 7 – 22 prescriptions every single night for the past 4 years and 4 ½ months.
I will try to put this one delicately. Anesthesia basically puts our entire body & all of the internal systems to sleep. It will take a little while for some of these systems to wake up… including your digestive system. My Suggestion would be to make sure they give you some sort of “Dulcolax” or “Ex-Lax” type medication before you leave the hospital. You do not want to be dealing with those types of issues a week or so later. Straining with 15 staples in your head will make you want to pass out. *If you catch my drift
Ear Plugs… Hospitals are loud!
Make sure you have button-down or large V-neck pajamas to put on after the catheter comes out… you will want out of that dumb gown.
Don’t forget socks… preferably if you can find the no-slip kind with the nubbers on the bottom.
Wet-wipe face cloths. Washing your face will feel good even when you can’t get out of bed.
Take your own pillows in colorful pillowcases (so you can tell which ones are yours).
Take chap stick… hospital air dries out your lips.
Straws that bend – bending your head to drink will be an issue at least until the staples come out.
Hair Scrunchies / Rubber Bands, this will help keep your hair away from the incision, and make it easier to wash.
Scarves! This cold weather we have been having will be very sensitive on your neck / staples / incision. Especially with part of your hair missing the back of your head/neck will get cold. 13 months after my surgery and I still love my scarves.
The first few days at home, sleeping in a recliner might be more comfortable than sleeping on your bed.
Once you get home, if it is possible try and situate yourself somewhere in your home that is on the one level with a bathroom, kitchen, bed … If it is possible. Stairs after surgery will add pressure to your incision area and plus you might not be able to walk them alone. Please think of safety as well. I had a hard time walking where I was going because I couldn’t tilt my head down very far. The first few weeks when you get home you need to be pampered. No lifting, bending over, or reaching over your head. (Nothing Heavier than a Gallon of Milk)
If possible purchase or get a loan of a shower chair for bathing and you use a hand-held shower hose to wash down your body to get refreshed. And if/when someone can help you. Have them present, if it is someone you trust they may even wash you down gently.
For your care takers…take a comfy pillow / blanket for the waiting room since they probably won’t let anyone sleep in the ICU room. Have a CHARGED phone in case they need to send you a text message.
When we washed my hair… I put my remaining hair in pig tails and leaned over the double kitchen sink. My mom held a towel over my incision and washed one ponytail at a time (one in each side of the sink). This will be 1000* easier if you have a spray nozzle on your sink.
Once you get home… someone can use a cotton ball and baby oil and get the sticky glue residue off of your scalp from the band-aids. Take this process slow and easy.
Oh… and if you think you are going to sneeze… brace yourself and your neck. Put your hands behind your head with your elbows in front of your face and hold on. I’m not trying to scare you… but sneezing with 15 staples in the back of your head hurts worse than the surgery itself. ( Hurts like hell with stitches too! Hurts even after surgery esp. when you have fusion!!)
Check out all the t-shirts available that talk about our condition…I ordered the “too much brain to contain” shirt and wore it home from the hospital. (just make sure you don’t buy anything that says The Chiari Center Foundation… sadly, that is an organization that is being investigated for embezzlement and making money off of people who are suffering.
The drive home was very stressful. Be very careful of bumps and stuff like that.
After you have recovered, you might want to do some light exercise…but you need to be very careful about your neck and lifting things over your head. I go to Slo-fit once a week (the one in Plano, Texas). They know all about Chiari because I have been going there for almost a year now. It is very slow strength training to help us get back the movement in our numb arms, etc.
Save a pain pill for the office visit when they take out your staples. The staples coming out wouldn’t have been so tender but my hair had already started growing back and they were pulling the hairs out with the staples.
A BIG thank you to Amiee for sharing her Chiari knowledge. I still look to her when I have questions!
Thank you all for supporting my blog, and listening to us in the Chiari community. I can not stress enough how important it is for the medical community, and the general public to listen to us and take us seriously.